Falling Face Forward

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So I’ve been wanting to write about relationships and the way people act about them. I’m going to do my best to write this objectively (impossible…) especially because females are always considered boy obsessed and crazy.

I used to get really offended when people, both males and females, would generalize things about the females like: we always want to be in a relationship, we are obsessed with the male species, our “egg” timer is ticking, we’re over-emotional, etc. As a female, I feel like a lot of those things don’t apply to me, but then again that could be because I’m uber lazy and drama requires a lot of energy.

But after almost 4 years of college and the four tragic years in high school, I feel like I have to concede that maybe some of these generalizations might have more truth to them than I thought.

This has been most noticeable when I’m going out. Like I get that at times a girl wants to dress up, meet a cute guy (who will hopefully buy you drinks), and potentially meet someone that you might actually like in the cold light of sobriety. What I wasn’t expecting was how many girls seem to have their entire evening ruined if a guy doesn’t hit on her or the bar lacks any potential dating partners. And I’m not talking about the “o bummer, no cute guys here”, I’m talking about the “OMG my entire night is ruined, I want to go home and never go out again” kind of ruined.

Now, when this happens I usually have a hard time processing why the lack of guys or male attention is a ruiner of what could still be a pretty wicked evening with friends. Why can’t it just be a Girls Night? You know…a night without boys where you can chill with girls, bitch about feminine problems, dance like an idiot with each other, and then leave with the knowledge that you just got closer with some girls who are like family too you?

When I asked a bunch of girls this they looked at me like I was on crack. Apparently, I am one of the few people who thinks a “Girls Night” is supposed to be about well girls. Crazy I know. After much discussion, it seems quite a few girls feel that a girls night is actually all about boys. Apparently I missed the memo. For a lot of females, girls night is about getting dressed up with your girls, hitting some popular bar/restaurant, and looking so damn good that guys can’t help but flock to you. And if you do find a guy who is interested in you, the whole “girl code” definitely doesn’t apply because like I said earlier, girls night is now all about getting boys. Well…that’s good to know! I’d hate to be that girl who gets grumpy at her friends because she thought they were going out to hang out with each other and celebrate in the BONDS OF SISTERHOOD (I’m totally joking about the bonds thing).

So now that this little issue was cleared up for me, I got to thinking about why there was even a “night” dedicated for the sole purpose of finding a guy. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that females should never be on the prowl for a hot guy. I mean, there have been many a days where I tell my girl friends, “Tonight, I’m finding me a guy!”. The difference is that if I don’t (and where I’m at…that seems to happen a lot) I don’t get down over it and swear off going out or men for the rest of my life. I just shrug it off, maybe take a few extra shots and go on my merry way.

Yet a lot of girls, not all…but a lot, seem incapable of doing that. Its like if a guy doesn’t come up and approach them or whatnot they feel like they are less attractive or something. Now I have no clue why anyone would think that but it seems a lot of girls do and I hate to admit but it drives me a bit bonkers. Because as much as I try and be the supportive friend, I just cant offer that shoulder to cry on when you’re crying over the fact that no one approached you at a bar/party/club etc.

Mostly, it just made me think and question why girls seem to believe that if they don’t have a boy in their life then something is wrong with them. I’d continue ranting and rambling about this but I just noticed how long this post really is and I’m sure the few of you who are left reading this really wish I’d stop. So it looks like there will just have to be a part 2…or many more depending on how scattered my brain is!